Asking for Help Changed Everything: What Two Coaches Taught Me About Success, Burnout, and Belonging

I thought I had to do it all alone.

For years, I believed that if I just worked harder, performed better, and pushed through, I’d succeed. Promotions, praise, output—I chased them all. And for a while, I got them. On paper, I was thriving.

But behind the scenes? I was burning out.

There was the time I was passed over for a promotion I’d worked relentlessly for. The layoff that came just when I thought I’d finally found career stability. And the long stretch of months where I was glued to my laptop, working 60+ hours a week, utterly depleted and afraid to slow down—because I believed slowing down meant falling behind.

Each of those moments felt like failure. But they also had something else in common: they brought me to a choice point. And when I found the courage to do something I’d never let myself do before—ask for help—everything changed.

The first time I got coaching, I didn’t ask for it. I needed it.

My company connected me to a coach during a particularly brutal stretch of burnout. I was hesitant—skeptical even. Coaching felt like a luxury, something for people with time or space or privilege I didn’t feel I had.

But in working with him, something clicked. I learned how to shift out of survival mode. I went from working 60 hours a week and feeling like I was barely holding it together… to working 45 hours (at most), hitting my goals, and actually feeling good. For the first time in years, I was doing well while also feeling well. I didn’t lose my edge. I regained my energy.

The second time, I sought the help myself.

I was at a crossroads, uncertain of what came next. My work didn’t feel like it fit anymore, and I couldn’t even articulate what I wanted instead. It was like wandering in a dark room—bumping into everything, unsure where the door was.

That’s when I invested in coaching on my own. I was scared—it felt indulgent and risky. But it turned out to be the bravest move I made. With my coach’s support, I built a new vision for my career and life. I reconnected with what mattered to me. I made big decisions—and bold moves—and started achieving milestones I used to dream about.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

Asking for help isn’t weakness. It’s leadership.
You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
And sometimes, what gets you to the next level isn’t more effort—it’s the right support.

Coaching didn’t just help me bounce back. It helped me come back as more myself. Clearer. Braver. Stronger. And now, through Eleva, I support other women doing the same.

If you’re at a turning point—burned out, stuck, or unsure what’s next—this is your sign. You don’t have to wait for a breakdown to get support. Coaching can be the bridge between where you are and where you want to be.

I know, because I’ve walked it.

If you’re standing at your own turning point—and wondering what’s next—I’d love to support you. I offer a Complementary Call for women who are ready to explore what a more aligned, powerful path could look like—without compromising themselves. Let’s talk.